Archive for February, 2008
Self Esteem Lesson From An Eleven Year Old
Sunday, February 17th, 2008I’ve always been in awe of people who exhibit consistent high self-esteem. My eleven year-old son falls into this category. Many times, I wonder how his self esteem is so high when I must constantly work on my self confidence. Anyway, my eleven year-old loves sports and usually excels at them. To top it off, he’s a consistent high performer in academics as well. He truly believes that he can do anything he sets his mind to and rarely gives up until he gets the results he wants. Unfortunately, during football season, he had a game where things didn’t work out as he expected and he suffered public humiliation as a result. Keep reading………
Pitfall of Negative Thinking
Sunday, February 17th, 2008Negative thinking has a sneaky way of creeping up on you if you’re not careful. Even the most dedicated self-help, personal development junky finds his or herself falling victim to negativism at times. It happened to me today in the workplace. One of the supervisors I work with was explaining why one of our employees was unhappy in the office. This employee is one of the employees I label as the ‘floundering five’ because they are always critical, negative, whinny, complainers that never focus on anything positive. It gets old and irritating at times. I guess I let them get to me today. Years of ‘automatic’ negative thinking patterns snatched the opportunity to take over. This type of thinking became so natural over the years that I hadn’t even realized I was doing it.
Why Personal Ethics Are Important
Wednesday, February 6th, 2008Ethical dilemmas occur when you are faced with situations that conflict with our values or beliefs. In simple terms, some people like to refer to ethical dilemmas as the difference between right and wrong. However, right and wrong is subjective to different people based on a number of factors including culture, family upbringing, and experience. Know this, people can rationalize anything if they have no standards for measuring right or wrong. There will be many times in our lives that we are faced with ethical
dilemmas, and this is why establishing your own personal ethics is extremely important.
Your Demeanor Reflects Self Esteem
Sunday, February 3rd, 2008Low self esteem shows in your demeanor. When my self worth was at its lowest, my shoulders slouched, I rarely made eye contact, and a sad expression remained plastered to my face. I was a walking advertisement for self depreciation. Each day, my self confidence disappeared a little more. I never felt like a failure before, but I learned there is a first time for everything. But you know what? I can’t explain it, but the fighter in me refused to give the people knocking me the satisfaction of knowing they were getting to me. I was sick and tired of having my dignity stripped away. I decided to boost my morale and I started by faking it.
Why Care What Other People Think?
Sunday, February 3rd, 2008I believe we care about what other people think because we want to be accepted. For many years, especially in the workplace, I let my concern over what other people think about my actions and behaviors control me.
By caring what other people think - I placed myself in a very bad place. For starters, we can never please everyone and there will always be people who do not like us. Moreover, instead of caring what we think of ourselves (internal forces that we can control) we place our happiness and wellbeing on external forces (which we cannot control).
