Self Esteem
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Sunday, February 17th, 2008I’ve always been in awe of people who exhibit consistent high self-esteem. My eleven year-old son falls into this category. Many times, I wonder how his self esteem is so high when I must constantly work on my self confidence. Anyway, my eleven year-old loves sports and usually excels at them. To top it off, he’s a consistent high performer in academics as well. He truly believes that he can do anything he sets his mind to and rarely gives up until he gets the results he wants. Unfortunately, during football season, he had a game where things didn’t work out as he expected and he suffered public humiliation as a result. Keep reading………
Your Demeanor Reflects Self Esteem
Sunday, February 3rd, 2008Low self esteem shows in your demeanor. When my self worth was at its lowest, my shoulders slouched, I rarely made eye contact, and a sad expression remained plastered to my face. I was a walking advertisement for self depreciation. Each day, my self confidence disappeared a little more. I never felt like a failure before, but I learned there is a first time for everything. But you know what? I can’t explain it, but the fighter in me refused to give the people knocking me the satisfaction of knowing they were getting to me. I was sick and tired of having my dignity stripped away. I decided to boost my morale and I started by faking it.
Comfort Zone and Self Esteem
Friday, January 11th, 2008Whether good or bad, we often become comfortable with the routine or events in our lives. I call this place our comfort zone. Unfortunately, when it comes to our self-esteem, our comfort zone can, and often does, work against us. How so?
Think about a time when you didn’t particularly like a situation or event, but you stayed with it anyway. I have many such examples to reference. For instance, I worked in a job that I didn’t like for about sixteen months. I wasn’t bad at it, I just didn’t like it. This particular job didn’t take advantage of my strong points and required me to focus on task I found tedious and boring. Nonetheless, the paycheck was fabulous. How does this impact my self esteem you may wonder? Well, I didn’t feel good about my situation. My self worth was already low so my unpleasant feelings towards my work paralleled with my feelings about myself.
Spirituality and Self Esteem
Sunday, January 6th, 2008My self esteem received a major boost when I worked on my spirituality - my personal relationship with God.
I’ll never forget the day I was driving home from work - my self esteem at an all-time low. I was on my cell phone talking to my grandmother. I admitted to her that I needed professional help. My grandmother became very emotional - telling me that I didn’t need professional help - what I needed was God.
Low Self Esteem - Overcoming Fear
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2008Overcoming fears is hard enough without adding low self esteem into the mix. My reality, however, is that low self esteem makes overcoming fears that much more difficult.
As it stands, low self esteem means lack of self confidence or self-consciousness for me. When I think about it, my low self esteem is fed by fear of humiliation or rejection.
You see, I’m a reserved, shy person by nature. I’d happily blend into the woodwork if I could. I never want to find myself in a social situation where everyone is staring or laughing at me. It’s one of my worst nightmares.
Personal Flaws and Self Esteem
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2008Nobody escapes personal flaws - we all have them. Lately, I’ve realized my personal flaws have impacted my self-esteem over the years. I’ve always been self conscious about my nose, my thighs, and my feet.
What personal flaws are you self conscious about? Like me, I bet you can recall times when your personal flaws fed low self esteem. For me, I dreaded wearing a swim suit, because my thighs and feet were exposed for all to see and ridicule (or at least I thought that would happen).
Low Self Esteem - My Perspective
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2008Low self esteem sucks. When I hit my self esteem low, I desperately needed better. I did my research and read all about what causes low self esteem and what I could do to improve.
The problem: when low self esteem is holdinng you hostage, it’s not easy to break free - to boost your confidence and self esteem - no matter how many techniques you try.
My low self esteem discovery caused me to realize that improving low self esteem is a process that takes time. You have to make a choice. You have to chose to improve your self esteem.
Low Self Esteem Is A Trained Habit
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2008Each day, I hold a conversation with a woman in my office who suffers from very low self esteem. She is paranoid, always worried about what others think of her, and she is fearful of making a mistake. This woman is harder on herself than anyone else could ever be.
Interestingly, this woman, who I will call Patti, told me something I found very insightful. She explained that her first husband was mentally and verbally abusive to her. He always put her down and repeatedly told her she was crap. Can you imagine - for over twenty years - listening to someone who supposedly loved you - whose approval and support you needed - telling you you’re worthless - nothing more than crap?
Inferiority Complex or Low Self Esteem?
Wednesday, January 2nd, 2008Today while reading a book, the main character mentioned having an inferiority complex. This caused me to think about my self esteem and whether or not I suffer from an inferiority complex.
Why would I care? Well, I care because I’m a minority woman. Most of my life I’ve been told it’s a white man’s world. I’ve always been aware of my race and that fact that consciously or subconsciously my race (African American) is viewed by some as inferior.
Exercise Impacts Self Esteem
Tuesday, January 1st, 2008I think everyone wants contentment in life. At least I know that I do. My problem is that my life moves at an extremely fast pace every single day. I have work, I have kids, I have a husband, I have housework, I have goals to achieve, I have bills to pay, I have a multitude of demands on my time stretching my energy and efforts to the max. Everyday, I’m striving and working towards something. Would I ever find contentment? I doubted it.
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